Than and then are similar words to use when you’re planning. Than is often used in negatives as in “they’re not married anymore” or “they’re single.” Than indicates time, while then suggests a causal relationship.
“They’re not married anymore?” “Yes, but they are still dating. In the future, maybe.” “We’ll need to discuss that at some point.” Than indicates a future event or contingency, while then suggests an immediate result.
“He’s not happy with his job.” “Not really. I think he likes it better than when we first met.” “In hindsight, I think he could have been more assertive with her.”
“You never see yourself out with him.” “I don’t do that. If he asks me to go out with him, I say no. If he doesn’t ask me to go out with him, I tell him no.” “You never go out with your guy because you know that one day he’ll leave you.”
“You spend more time with your mother than with him.” “I’m not sure about that. Sometimes I spend more time with my mother than with my husband.” “You’re married to a guy who’s always trying to impress you. Maybe he needs to show you what an important person he is.”
“You need to do your own laundry.” “No, I just wash the other ones.” “You should get up and do some of your own laundry now, because it’s going to be hard for him to do it for you if you always do your laundry all the time.” “Maybe you should start washing some of your own clothes now.”
“He never comes home from work angry.” “That’s just not me. When he gets upset he usually goes out with you.” “Maybe you should try not to let him get upset all the time.” “Maybe you should cut back on the anger.”
These were my mother’s thoughts on how to keep a man, and then commit to him. The fact that she said these things to me made me realize that I had been doing some of the things she said to me. She said these things because we are friends. But I realized that there were things I needed to change in myself to make my relationship with my boyfriend a better one. It takes two people to make a relationship work. If you and your boyfriend can work together to make it a better one, your relationship will be happier and healthier for both of you.
The first thing you need to do is work on making your time at home equal to or better than your time spent at work. This may mean you have to adjust your schedule to make sure you have time for each other. You can make sure your schedule is better by:
If you are a morning person and your boyfriends waking up early, talk about it. It does mean that he will have to wake up earlier, but it also means that you can both get ready together. You can’t expect to make your man commit to you if you always seem like a night owl. Plus, having to fight with yourself over getting ready can actually kill off any attraction.
You need to make your love life exciting and varied. If you spend so much time together that you become complacent, your man will not want to hang out with you. So, don’t sit in front of the TV all day. Go out with friends, meet some new people, and make some new memories.
You also have to make sure you keep your personal hygiene up. It’s no secret that a clean, sexy body can attract a man. However, if you make him believe that lack of personal hygiene is something you’re willing to put up with, he’s going to find it hard to resist you.
If you are asking yourself “what can I do to make my man commit to me?” then you need to learn how to make your time at home equal to or better than your time spent at work. Then you have to show him that you can be confident enough to be with him whenever he wants to spend time with you. Above all, make sure you keep your personal life interesting and diverse. Once he starts considering you seriously, anything else will soon follow.